For many children, the standard visitation model — every other weekend and a few hours on Wednesday — means that every few days they leave their home for a new one, where different rules, standard and expectations apply. For many children, this transition is a challenge.
It does not have to be as bad as it often is, says Marjorie Engel, retired president of the Stepfamily Association of America . “The biggest thing is the attitude of the parents,” Engel says. “They need to continue to co-parent even if they have different roles. There has to be communication between the parents.”
It does not have to be as bad as it often is, says Marjorie Engel, retired president of the Stepfamily Association of America . “The biggest thing is the attitude of the parents,” Engel says. “They need to continue to co-parent even if they have different roles. There has to be communication between the parents.”
According to Engel, an ideal back and forth would include a checklist of items the children need and a conversation beforehand to make sure each parent understand that “hey, our son has decided not to cut his hair anymore” or “he is taking this kind of medicine at this dose.” While Engel says the rules need not be the same in each, parents should keep badmouthing to themselves. “There will be times when the parents are still angry at each other,” says Engel who encourages parents not to let that anger influence their children. read more at:http://www.divorce360.com/divorce-articles/child/custody/divorced-dads-struggle-with-visitation.aspx?artid=697
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