First, it must be understood that a trial should be your last alternative. Custody trials are incredibly painful and difficult for parents and children. A trial requires you to rip each other apart and say the worst things possible about each other. After a custody trial, it is extremely difficult to move past the ugliness and parent together cooperatively. The trial is also terrible for your child. He loves you both, and knowing you are hurting each other because of him is very damaging. As much as you try to shield your child from the trial, he is going to know about it and he is going to see the effect it is having on you. Your child likely will feel he is placed in a situation where he is supposed to somehow choose between you and knows that it is a situation in which he cannot win. Never ever try to bribe your child or convince him about what he should say to the law guardian or the judge. It's quite common for kids put in that position to walk into the judge's chambers and proudly report how Daddy is buying them a puppy if the judge lets the child live with him.
If you have been unable to reach an agreement and have no choice but to have a custody trial, there are some things you can do to prepare for it and help your attorney (if you have one) present a good case.
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